I'm in the process of re-evaluating my sexual life. The last time this happened, I entered a period of wild expansion -- an opening up that took me places I'd never imagined I could go, that scattered fears like leaves and demolished assumptions about myself and other people with the same enthusiasm a hungry teenager demolishes a stuffed-crust pizza. It's been mostly fun, and definitely educational. It's shaped who I am and how others view me, and made this blog possible.
Now, I feel changes coming again..
It's not that I want less sex, but more that I am better at knowing what kind of sex I want, and less anxious about waiting for it.
Recently, I've been thinking a lot about offering more, and expecting less. The quality of service within the context of sexuality is one that appeals to me. Not submission (though sometimes it can take this form) but more of a total giving, a complete release into offering pleasure to others (or even oneself) that utilizes the full spectrum of skills and compassion acquired over a lifetime of dedicated sexual exploration.
I feel like it's time I started asking, not as a supplicant, but as an assured and confident Practitioner: How can I serve your pleasure?
1 comments:
Thanks for writing this. Simple, articulate, and beautifully spoken. I've been having thoughts along the same lines myself but haven't been able to think it as eloquently.
Patience is a big factor. Giving more, expecting less. And, yes, service but not submission.
It really can't be submission because it is free and liberating; I give of myself for your pleasure. Without any catches, hooks, or conditions.
Yeah. :-)
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